The “Dear …” community column intends to provide the university an outlet to share a life struggle, dilemma and/or hardship and how the St. Bonaventure University community has helped them through it.
To Nick Muccia,
Trying to find words to describe how much you meant to me and everyone you encountered is the most difficult task I have ever done.
How can one begin to describe a person so kind, so giving and so caring?
How can you describe a person who had a dramatic impact on so many different people?
The best way to start is to take it back to the beginning, the first time we ever met, on July 10, 2009 — our freshman orientation.
Almost as if it were right out of a movie script, we were assigned as roommates for our one night stay at Bona’s.
Then we were also assigned to group Merton, meaning we would be getting to know each other well over the two-day span. The conversations we had continued into the night, me learning about you and vice versa.
It was just so easy to talk to you. You had a way of making a stranger feel welcomed, discussing with them whatever is on their mind, and then give them the best advice you could. That’s how I felt on that warm summer night.
I believed that I had found my best friend for life. Someone who understood me completely, and you felt the same. Requesting to be roommates was the only logical next step.
Over the course of being roommates, like we both believed that summer, we became best friends. We discussed everything and because of your infectious personality, our room became the it spot.
I would like to say that I had something to do with Shay 300 being filled to the brim with people on weekends, but who am I kidding.
Who could resist gathering around a person with a smile from ear to ear, a person who made everyone feel comfortable?
Those who made their way to Shay 300 always left feeling that they made a new friend in you. They felt a connection that one can’t explain unless they were lucky enough to know you.
Sure, there were times we managed to get ourselves into trouble by being generous with our room, but that is part of the college experience. Being social, meeting new people, gaining new friends and experiences.
Gaining friends is exactly what happened.
Through orientation, we developed a tight-knit group of friends. No doubt, a lot was attributed to you, but our group of me, you, Sally O’Rourke, Charlee Smith, Kevin Festa and Alyce Baker were as close as one could be.
You helped keep us together, helped make St. Bonaventure our home, just like it was for your sister and brother before you. I still remember staring at the picture on the side of your desk, one with you standing next to the Bona Wolf, surely not knowing that only a few years later you would be attending the same school.
The memories we shared — the good times, the bad times and all of them in between — helped make us stronger. In one short year, you impacted everyone you came into contact with.
You taught me how to help people, to be patient, to care, to always look for what’s best for everyone around and, most importantly, you made me a better person.
The last time we spoke, you sent me a letter explaining that I should do whatever makes me happy because life is too short.
I’ve taken that to heart each and every day, not stressing over the tiny stuff, but instead keeping focus on what truly makes me happy.
Plus, it’s always nice to know that you are watching over me, with that ear to ear grin, pointing me to the right path — the one to happiness.
Thanks for everything you have done for me. I couldn’t have done this without you.
Your friend and roommate,
Ryan Lazo, Class of 2013
A candlelight ceremony to celebrate and remember the life of Nick Muccia will take place inside the Shay Hall and Loughlen Hall lobby at 8:30 p.m. today. Muccia, a sophomore, passed away last November from a congenital heart defect.
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